What is Mentoring?
- A brain to pick, a shoulder to cry on and a kick in the pants when needed.
- Making one’s personal strengths, resources and networking abilities available to help a mentee (Returning Citizen) reach his or her goals.
- A “process” in a relationship in which one empowers another person by “shaping”, encouraging and helping them become ALL THEY CAN BE.
- Being a coach, friend, positive role model, advisor, self-esteem builder, career counselor, advocate, cheerleader and guide.
- Being a faithful friend, teacher and advisor. Make that a “wise & trusted” advisor.
- This is a process of planting, watering and cultivating spiritual growth through the commitment to help others. “As iron sharpen iron, so one man sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:17)
What are the goals of mentoring?
Encouraging, caring, spending quality time, speaking the truth in love, inspiring one to set goals, listening, being honest, accepting without judging and giving a hand up not a handout .
Mentoring Do's and Dont's
- CARE and BE REAL
- LISTEN – Offer Guidance – Empathize – Offer Specific Advice – Support – Encourage – Pray for and with the Returning Citizen if he/she is comfortable.
- Be Accessible and Available
- Contact mentor coordinator if any questions/problems arise with the Returning Citizen. When in doubt ask!!
- Meet in a safe place. Especially in the initial phase (Wendy’s, McDonalds, etc.)
- Observe confidentiality issues.
- Stay in touch on regular basis.
- BE ON TIME!
- Don’t: Be the “Savior” or “Fixer” of the Returning Citizen’s problems. Enable them to work on their own problems. Teaching them to fish vs. giving a fish.
- Don’t: Give out personal information – Be discreet about your personal life and affairs (home phone, work phone, email address, etc.)
- Don’t: Loan Money or basically anything.
- Don’t: Ever Bond Someone out of jail.
- Don’t: Physically discipline.
- Don’t: Preach or try to convert the Returning Citizen to your Religious beliefs.
- Don’t: Use alcohol, tobacco, drugs, etc. in the presence of a Returning Citizen.
- Don’t: Nag, cajole, speak down to or say, “I told you so.”
- Don’t: Pretend you have all the answers.